Things Every Parent Should Hear

 

Here are some things that every parent should hear in case you are having one of those days where nothing is going your way and you need motivation.

  • YOU are a hero for you kids. You are, no matter how many kids you have. You’re the go-the-distance, fight-the-dragon, face-the-challenge hero for your kids. Taking a beating makes that only more true. Not less.
  • We all struggle. Every single parents. Everywhere. We all second-guess ourselves. We all have a time or two or more where we just want to say, “NO MORE” and quit. But we don’t. We hold the good time close. When things are tough, we remember the phrase, “This, too, shall pass.”
  • Finding the funny may not save your soul, but it will save your sanity. Maybe it’s the other way around. Whichever way it is, look for the humor. Embrace the crazy. Laughter is a lifeline.
  • Every single day, you will feel like you didn’t handle something the correct way. Almost like you’ve been impatient. Like you have misjudged. Or you’ve been too harsh. Been too lenient. You may be correct. Apologize. Just whatever. Let it go. Do not hold a grudge. It can bite you in the butt one day. Karma is not your friend.
  • The crazy. The crying. The cuddles. The screaming. The sacred. The scared. The minutes. The magic. The mess. It’s all part of life. It’s all worth it.
  • Family is the best. Family may not be perfect. It’s never perfect. Ever!
  • At the end of an organization (whatever it may be), at the end of patience, at the end of perfection, we die to only ourselves. Then love rises from the ashes. It stinks. It gets better. It stinks again. Love rises.
  • You’ll never regret parenting. Except for those teeny, tiny tons of times when you constantly and secretly wonder if you maybe regret it just a tiny bit. Majority of the time, never. Overall it is what counts in the end.
  • Look at parenting as similar as climbing a really big, gigantic mountain – say Mount Everest for example. Now once you get to the top of this mountain, look down for the base camp. This is where you will rest, meet other climbers, take in oxygen, and acclimatize. The base camp is what makes climbing gigantic mountains possible to reach the top.
  • You are not alone. You are not only in this strange, vast, parenting ocean. Even at night, when it’s pitch black and you cannot even see your own hand that is right in front of your face. You are not alone, ever!
  • Kids know the word ‘magical’ and they know how to get there. They will give you a “FREE PASS” to come along. Breathe in this magic as long and deep as you can, because this same kid that invited you will poop or pee her pants in just a second.
  • There is a fine line between enjoying chaos and barely surviving it. There’s no line, what am I talking about. It’s mixed together. You’ll never see it. It’s a lie. Maybe it’s there if you imagine one, but other than that, nope, no line.
  • If you pay attention long enough, your kids (and other people’s kids) will teach out how to laugh LOUDLY. How to love DEEPLY. How to live FULLY.  And how to ruin all of you stuff in seconds!
  • Any number of kids is a lot of kids, whether it’s an only child to four or more kids.
  • Joy. You must look for it. It could be found in the middle of the busy. Under the ridiculous. Hanging from an overwhelmed child in its underpants. Joy’s like that. In the middle of everything. Completely unpredictable. It’ll surprise you when you’re least expecting it. Kind of like your child vomit and/or diarrhea either at the same time or spaced out a couple of minutes. Except Joy is good.
  • Kids are difficult. They are gross. They are confusing. They are awesome. So are you.
  • You will fall apart. You will do it all wrong. You will forgive yourself. You will ask your children to forgive you. You will set an example of resilient fallibility. You will set an example of practicing the art of love – loving yourself and loving others. Not one single person I know has done this parenting gig right the first time. Or the last time. Or the times in between the first and the last. Showing your children how to keep on going after getting it wrong. After feeling defeated is a wonderful gift to give to them. To allow them to know “when you fall down, get back up and keep on trying.”
  • Parenting will bring you face to face with yourself. It may terrify you. It may break you. It will rebuild you. You will be stronger than ever thought possible.
  • Balancing anything is a myth. Parenting is not a tight-rope walk. It’s a dance. Strive for a rhythm in your life instead of a balance. Trust yourself to move to the ever-changing beat.
  • You will have days where you wonder where the hell the capable and organization you had went to. You will have days where you find yourself sitting on the floor if the middle of Wal-Mart near the check out area with a child who is literally screaming, throwing merchandise, calling you names, and thrashing about. You will have days where you will tell your child(ren) that the dog is not their napkin or their baby doll where you load your baby dolls up with make up and nail polish. If you don’t find yourself doing all those things, literally, then you will do it figuratively-speaking. You will hold your child(ren) while rocking back and forth letting them know that you love her. That she is safe. That you are not leaving when things get rocky. Someday she will leave you, but that’s life. That’s them growing up and figuring out life for herself. This is parenting. It’s tragic. Triumphant. Messy. Magical. Sacred. Spectacular. Always, fiercely worthwhile.

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